“It pleases God when we listen to His voice and then in faith believe what He’s spoken.” Pastor James Sunnock


A few months ago our pastor gave a great sermon about how to hear God’s voice.  I’ve talked previously about hearing God’s voice in Can You Please Repeat That?  However, our senior pastor shed new insights into what I already knew and took my understanding of hearing God’s voice to a new level.

First of all, he was talking about how God speaks in three different ways:  Sometimes auditory, sometimes visual, and sometimes kinesthetic.  I’ve read various true stories of how God came to people in dreams or they saw a vision of God.  Sometimes, they died and went to Heaven before coming back to Earth and sharing their experience.  I’ve always thought that would be awesome to experience.  However, I guess I’m more of an auditory person because most of the time I “hear” God instead of “see” God.




God made me.  He knew what kind of “learner” I would be and He knew how I would “hear” best and therefore, that is how He chooses to communicate most of the time with me.  That makes me feel good.  Not to say He will never talk in other ways but it just brought His talking to me to a deeper, more personal level.

The other point our pastor brought out was how do we know it’s really God and not just our thoughts?  There are three guidelines our pastor uses in his own personal life, and having heard him speak about this topic in the past, I started using the same guidelines in my own life.  The first is whether or not what is being said lines up with the Bible.  That’s the most important too.  If I think God is telling me to become physically violent with another human being, then I know God isn’t the one talking because God teaches us keep no record of wrongs, not retaliate.

The second guideline speaks about whether or not what we’re hearing produces the fruit of the spirit.  That doesn’t mean that what God is asking us to do won’t stretch us or problems  won’t arise where we’ll need to trust God to help us overcome.  It does mean that while we’re walking the (sometimes) difficult journey that God called us to travel, we’ll have an underlying peace, knowing that God asked us to obey and He has something great in store when we finish what He asked us to complete.

Lastly, our pastor has people in his life that he discusses what God tells him about, a checks and balances of sort in his life to keep him on track.  And, as he nicely pointed out, it’s better to get that friend/mentor/accountability partner in place before you need the advice or you might likely go find someone based on the fact you know they’ll agree with you.

Come back next time and I’ll share with you how God was speaking to me on the very day that I was hearing this sermon and how He reinforced the truth our pastor was speaking to our hearts.

© Cheri Swalwell 2014

I Am A Servant

“I don’t want my actions, my behaviors, and my attitude to draw people closer to myself…I want all I do to reflect who I truly want to glorify (God), not just in this life, but for all eternity.” (Cheri Swalwell, It’s Not About Me)

Within the last few weeks, some events occurred which caused me to re-examine how I was doing. You see, the closer I grow in my relationship to God, the less it becomes about what I want and more about His goals, His purpose, and His glory. When I wrote the above post, I was still in the “obedience” stage – the one where you’re making choices based on “should” more than “want to”. My desire to please Him was genuine, but my actions were based on choosing to obey, not a genuine heart change.

I can honestly say I’ve grown since that post. I still believe “It’s not about me,” but my heart has now lined up with that truth. My outward actions are the same, but this time I have the right attitude. Does that mean I always get it right? Unfortunately, no. Now, though, I’m quick to ask forgiveness for my selfish attitude. I’m also able to see the redemption God gives when I don’t hear Him correctly the first time, or sometimes purposefully choose not to listen.

Let me give a few examples to help explain. Normally I schedule my grocery shopping for Friday mornings twice a month. That’s what seems to work best for our family’s schedule. One week in February, however, I felt God nudging me to go on a Thursday morning instead. I wondered why, thinking maybe it was the threat of another impending storm, but chose the road of obedience nonetheless, trusting God would work out the details. While walking through the produce aisle, a worker I’d casually met more than eight months prior, came up to me and remarked about the beautiful verse on my purse. (Feel free to read Free or False Advertising to understand why.) One thing led to another and we ended up talking and sharing from the heart for almost an hour.  Toward the end, she made the comment, “God used you today. I prayed last night and told God I needed to know He was there. And He answered through your encouragement today.”

I thanked her for sharing before we said goodbye and then I thanked God that I’d listened to His voice earlier and was able to be used for Him. It wasn’t about me doing anything special…just pleasure in knowing I’d obeyed. I felt privileged God was able to use that obedience as a blessing for someone else.



Fast forward to a week ago.  I was driving our oldest home after a long day and I thought I heard God whisper again, “Go grocery shopping tonight.” I was confused since it would mean I wouldn’t get home until after 9 pm, and there was homework, baths, and bedtime that needed to occur. I casually mentioned it to my husband at dinner without much conviction, and as a result, he encouraged me to decide for myself. For the sake of not inconveniencing the family, I chose to go the next morning as planned. Friday morning we were awakened to projectile vomiting from our four-year-old, so any plans for the day were scraped. It was also my husband’s birthday weekend, so thoughts of getting out to buy his present were delayed as well. My first response was anger toward myself. Then, I chose to apologize to God and committed to listening better next time.

As I mentioned above, God is the restorer of all things when we repent and vow to do it His way after all. The illness lingered and I didn’t get a chance to go out and buy my husband’s gift until the night before his birthday. I was in a hurry to get home but struck up small talk with the cashier as she was checking me out.

It began something like this: “How are you doing?”

“Well, good and bad.”

“Oh yeah, what do you mean?”

“My best friend’s dad is in the hospital.”

“I’m sorry. What’s wrong?”

“He had a seizure and now the doctors are saying they don’t think he’ll make it. He’s only 57 years old…but he’s like a dad to me.”

Without thinking about anything other than their pain, I asked for his name and then her name and promised to pray for all of them. And I have been. Every time they come to mind, I’ve been praying for peace whatever the outcome, praying that the man has time to make things right with God before they meet face to face, and that someone will come alongside this family and the hurting cashier and show them God’s love.

It was a result of those instances, months apart, when I fully understood that it’s not about me. None of it. Never. It doesn’t matter what I do in life…because it’s not about me. And, I’m okay with that. I’m better than okay, that’s the way I want it.

Life is about so much more than living here on Earth. It’s about how we spend eternity. I know with certainty where I’m going. There will always be things I need to do – working to bring in a paycheck, supplying clean clothes on a regular basis, keeping a clean house, and making sure the pantry stays stocked with enough food to eat.

However, life, real life isn’t about any of those things. While checking things off my to-do list, it’s about making sure I keep the real goal in mind – sharing God’s love with everyone who needs it. Whether they are already God’s children and just need some encouragement, help, or a listening ear…or someone who hasn’t been introduced to God and how much He loves them.

And that, my friends, is why I can say, “I’m a servant” with a smile on my face.

What about you? Have you had your own “it’s not about me” moment? If so, I’d love for you to share about it below.

© Cheri Swalwell 2014

An Amazing Ending

“It’s as if God is saying, ‘I know the story I’m telling. Will you trust Me? Even if it means there are hard chapters, will you trust Me with those hard chapters and will you trust that in the end of this story that you’re going to be amazed?'” (Steven Curtis Chapman)

I overheard a mother talking the other day with a friend about an award ceremony her family had recently attended.  Her child didn’t think she was getting any awards because she didn’t feel she had done anything noteworthy, so the expectations going into it were low.  However, the mother remarked how throughout the ceremony, her heart grew sadder as others were recognized for their achievements and her child, whom she thought was pretty special, was overlooked.  At the very end of the program, instead of being recognized for an achievement, her child received an award based on her character.  That changed everything for the mom.  She was proud not of what her child had achieved or failed to achieve, but she was proud of who her daughter was becoming.

That got me thinking about our life and how our Heavenly Father must look at us.  I know I for one get discouraged from time to time.  I feel like I’m walking steady throughout life – not necessarily achieving anything noteworthy but not slacking off either – just average, not extraordinary.  However, sometimes it gets discouraging when others around me get “awards” for their accomplishments and I seem to have been forgotten.  Or…it’s not necessarily about being recognized for anything I’ve done, but instead a particular season of life is incredibly difficult and continuing to move forward gets hard.




I got a word picture when overhearing the conversation between friends and it’s this:  Our Father knows how it’s all going to turn out.  At the beginning of the program (my life), He already knew the award (blessing) that was waiting for me at the end.  He also knew all I would have to go through before I would see the blessing.  So He sat there patiently, even during my moments of discouragement, frustration, or impatience for the trial to finally be over, knowing what was waiting for me.  Not an award to recognize my hard work.  No, an award to show that by leaning into Jesus and trusting Him through the trials, difficulties, and struggles, my entire character had changed and He recognized that.

That thought left me peaceful.  While I’m happy to stay in the background, continue to quietly obey and be the person God wants me to be without seeking out accolades or recognition, it’s nice to know that the trials I face are shaping me more into who God wants me to be. If I continue to trust God until I take my last breath, when I finally stand face-to-face with my Father, as Steven Curtis Chapman puts it so eloquently, I’m “going to be amazed.”

© Cheri Swalwell 2014

No One Left Behind

“Believing is a choice, Zach. You can’t force somebody to do it.” (William Sirls, The Reason)


I’m ashamed to admit but sometimes I wish people would just do what I tell them too…period. “Separate the clothes into darks and lights when you put them in the clothes hamper. The dog needs to be taken outside before we have to clean up a mess on the floor. The morning would run smoother if you would get some of this stuff done the night before.” I think that my way is best…or maybe I’m too lazy to make the effort to try something new, even if it is more efficient.

For most things, it’s not a big deal that my kids, friends, and family members want to choose for themselves. In fact, I think it’s human nature to want to make choices that affect your values, lifestyle, and in the case of children, their growing independence. As their mother who is training them to be fully functioning mature adults, I need to support them in their choosing.

However, when it comes to salvation and where you are going to spend eternity, the stakes are quite a bit higher. We’re not talking about a new hairstyle, particular food choices, or whether or not you’re going to clean your room. We’re talking about where you are choosing to spend eternity and that affects…well, forever.




The Bible is very clear that if we choose to admit we’re sinners and we can’t make it to Heaven by our own skills, but cry out to Jesus Christ and ask Him to take charge in our lives, then our place in Heaven with God is secure. However, if we choose instead to continue on the path of doing it our way, God is just as clear that our fate is sealed as well – to live a life separate from Him forever. Revelation 14:10-11 (NIV) describes it this way: they, too, will drink the wine of God’s fury, which has been poured full strength into the cup of his wrath. They will be tormented with burning sulfur in the presence of the holy angels and of the Lamb. And the smoke of their torment will rise for ever and ever. There will be no rest day or night for those who worship the beast and its image, or for anyone who receives the mark of its name.”

Some people get angry at God for being mean and sending people to Hell. God isn’t mean and doesn’t send us to Hell. He allows us an alternative to what we deserve, which is Hell. By God’s grace, we can choose salvation through His Son, Jesus Christ, and when we do that, we are saved from what we deserve…eternal damnation.

However, as much as I wish I could, I can’t make that choice for anyone. I can’t demand, force, belittle, challenge, or bribe someone to choose God. Just as God doesn’t choose for us, neither can we choose for others. What I can do, though, through my lifestyle, actions, attitude, and the grace God has given to me, share with those I love and others around me the gift that God so graciously offered me and I accepted so that they have the chance to choose for themselves. Because, the older I get, the more I realize, this choice is the most important one anyone will ever make.

I don’t want to waste time on things that don’t last when I can offer the best choice to those I love instead.

© Cheri Swalwell 2014

 Hope During Heartache: 

True Stories of Emotional Healing from Infertility, Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Death of a Child

Step inside this book to hear from twelve different men and women, through their own words, how they were able to find hope during their heartache. Let them offer you a chance to experience that hope for yourself.

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Melissa: “For the next few weeks everything remained normal. I felt great and I was even starting to look pregnant with that small bulge beginning to appear.

All of this changed on Friday morning, March 7th…Immediately the thoughts of something being wrong raced through my mind.”

Josh: “It was just after midnight on Sunday, All Saints Day actually, when my wife woke up with cramping. It had only been a few hours since she got home from a family baby shower, a few hours more from when I had stopped handing out Halloween candy to the neighborhood kids.. She was thirty weeks along. The dangers of the first trimester were long past. Statistically, we were in the clear. When the cramping started, she thought that it would pass, but it was bad enough that she couldn’t get back to sleep, so she did homework instead.”

Shannon:  “Sunday, July 10, 2005, as I went to pick up Leo from the church’s nursery, he had passed away in his sleep during the service. This was an unimaginable nightmare, and I can’t explain how I could even get out of bed in the morning afterward…. People have told me how unfair it is that we tried to conceive for so long, having in-vitro fail and then going through adoption, only to lose our child.”

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Hope During Heartache: 

True Stories of Emotional Healing from Infertility, Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Death of a Child


 Have you ever dealt with the pain of infertility? Heard the devastating words, “I’m so sorry but your child is no longer alive?” Lived with a heartache so deep it feels as though there will never be any relief?


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If you find yourself enrolled in this membership, know that you aren’t alone. There are many who have walked this road that are waiting to come alongside and help. Just as the picture on the cover shows the reality of a fierce storm with the hope of bright skies, there is Hope for the storm you are currently facing as well.


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“Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” Romans 12:12 (NIV)


Last time we were together we were talking about the perks of being a Christ follower and how you can receive them for yourself as His child.

If you remember, I’d asked God if the promise in Exodus 14:13-14 was still valid or if that perk had an expiration date. I have to admit, I was a little nervous to ask Him because I was a little scared of His answer. I shouldn’t have been. He showed me through various means that He was going to continue fighting for me. Because our God is so generous, He gave me an additional promise to cling to, that piggybacks the first promise but gave additional hope. He gave me II Corinthians 5:17 (NIV): “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” Through a series of very personal, yet very different avenues, God reaffirmed to me that He was indeed giving me this message and I could claim its promise for our lives.

The point of this post isn’t to talk about me, which is why I didn’t always give lots of details. The point instead is this: God loves His children. People talk a lot about the bad things that happen in this world, and yes, bad things happen. If it wasn’t for the “bad thing” that happened to our family in August 2013 (as well as other “bad” things that had happened years earlier), I might not have seen the powerful way God provides like I did as a result of the trial.




However, the point I’m trying to make is this. There are literally hundreds of promises (blessings) in the Bible and God has specific ones, individual and very personal ones just for you. Unless you ask, though, you may never receive the blessing that has been waiting for you this whole time. God wants to bless His children and when we obey His commands and cultivate our relationship with Him, choosing to be more like Him daily, we can then start to experience the blessings available to us. It’s not hard. It’s as easy as cultivating a relationship with your husband, your best friend, or your children. Spending time with God, reading about His characteristics in the Bible and reading and receiving the blessings He has to offer you individually.

I was talking about the promises God gave to me with a friend. She was happy for me, but she made a statement that reinforced just how personal our Father is. She said that the promises I shared with her don’t mean anything to her personally because they don’t fill a need she has. They mean so much to me, and give me hope, because God fills up our empty spaces and makes beautiful masterpieces out of our lives when we allow Him full access. She, on the other hand, had other promises she was daily bringing to the Lord that filled up her spaces because God knows exactly what she and her family need.

I don’t know about you but as much as I like parking close to a building and I truly do love the masterpieces that my children present to me – the perks of being a Christ follower are indescribable. The hope that rises when I know I’d heard directly from the Creator of the Universe to a need so personal in my life brings peace. And peace, my friend, Heavenly peace, feels real good.

© Cheri Swalwell 2014


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