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“Children’s children are a crown to the aged, and parents are the pride of their children.” Proverbs 17:6 (NIV)

 

At the beginning of the summer, I had the privilege of taking all three kids grocery shopping with me.  I say privilege because they are at the age where they don’t have to come.  Well, the youngest is still too little to stay home alone; but he is quite able to stay home under his siblings’ supervision.  The fact they chose to go to the store with me wasn’t lost on me.  I enjoy spending time with them and I realize all too soon their schedules won’t allow the privilege of spending this type of uninterrupted, take for granted time much longer.  They have band camp, volleyball camp, church camp, summer jobs, etc. which have us all running in different directions.

However, that particular day, we started talking to a mother of a little one.  He was old enough to flirt when we waved, but young enough that he still needed to be held or buckled into the cart. I was telling her how much I love the stage my own kids were in, but how much I truly missed the stage she was experiencing.  We shared about how we “borrow” a child from time to time to still get to experience that stage occasionally.  Then, I wanted to make sure she didn’t think I was stalking her child, so I explained we also worked in our church’s nursery as a family, and her response was, “I didn’t think you were weird.  I was kind of wondering how I could get you to “borrow” him once in a while” (gesturing to her child in the cart).

I was reading a blog post from another friend whose children are similar in age in ours.  She was talking about the advantages of having children old enough to clean (for real) and children who don’t need to constantly be entertained.  We are definitely in that stage now.  Our kids rewrote the chore chart at the beginning of the summer, compromising on the jobs they don’t like with ones they tolerate and it’s gone quite smoothly. I promised I wouldn’t nag as long as the jobs were completed when they needed to be and I could live in a relatively neat house.

I don’t know what certain activities and traditions look like in your house, but I want to encourage you to treasure the time you have with your kids now.  I’m definitely not needed as much “hands on” now as I was.  I admit – I miss it.  I miss rocking my kids for their twice daily naps, I miss the excitement of playing at the park for the afternoon.  I miss reading books snuggled on the couch.  And I realize that in a few years, I will miss the loud music, the “Can I show you this video? It’s hilarious!” “Can we go to the store for an Icee?  I’ll pay.”

I don’t want to hurry these days along.  I don’t want to live with any regrets of not taking the time to enjoy these moments – whether they are simple moments like sharing a shopping trip or bigger moments like hiking, day trips to the zoo or movie marathons.  Family is so important.  Childhood memories are priceless.  I am blessed to have a husband who realizes the importance of making memories with our kids so that they will always remember how much they are loved by us… and hopefully it will lead them to seeing how much more their Heavenly Father desires a relationship with them as well.

© Cheri Swalwell 2017

 

 

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“There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But you—who are you to judge your neighbor?” James 4:12 (NIV)

 

God has had many conversations with me this past year about relationships and their importance. God is all about relationship – so much so that He sent Jesus to earth to form relationships with us, humans, in order to introduce us to Him, Our Father (His Father) and to provide an example of how to be in relationship with Them for all eternity.

God has also been teaching me about His unconditional love.  I’ve always known about it, have understood it in the form of head knowledge, but have had difficulty allowing it to reach my heart and settle there like a cuddly blanket on a cold night.  It’s easy to feel loved when things are going well and I’m succeeding at life.  It’s a lot harder to feel loved when I’m making mistake after mistake after mistake… or even harder yet when I’m deliberately choosing disobedience.

However, God loves us just as much when we’re succeeding at life as when we’re failing.  His love isn’t dependent upon whether or not we mess up.  Unconditional love means we don’t earn it… in fact, we can’t earn it.  There is nothing we can do to make God love us more and there is nothing we can do to make God love us less.  He loves because that is God.  He loves us because He is God.

When we become His children, He starts to see us through the lens of Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross.  Not because of anything we did.  Because of all He did.  When we make the choice to be His child, we receive His unconditional love through the sacrifice of Jesus. He still loves us just as much before we choose to become His child through accepting Jesus as our Savior… but until we make that choice, He still sees us through the lens of sin because we haven’t asked Jesus to remove it from us yet.

I’ve had many a conversation this past year that starts out with… “There’s no judgement.  When I’m perfect, then you can worry about me judging.” By that I mean this: It’s not my job to judge your choices and your decisions.  That’s between you and our Heavenly Father.  My privilege is to point you toward Him so that you and He can have that relationship He so desperately wants to have with you.  He loves you unconditionally.  He wants to take the mistakes that you make and remove them completely through the blood of Jesus.  He wants to see you through the lens of forgiveness… the sacrifice of His only Son on the cross.

God won’t make that choice for you.  It’s up to you to decide how God views you – through the lens of your sin or through the lens of forgiveness, the sacrifice of His Son to allow you to spend eternity in Heaven sharing a relationship with our Heavenly Father.  There’s no judgement from me… but ultimately everyone will face judgement before our Heavenly Father.  What’s your choice?

© Cheri Swalwell 2017

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“Submit to God and be at peace with him; in this way prosperity will come to you. Accept instruction from his mouth and lay up his words in your heart.”

Job 22: 21-22 (NIV)

 

I overheard a teenager talking to her mother the other day and was saddened at the tone and words spewing out of her mouth.  I wondered what had caused the breakdown in their relationship that made the child think her tone and words were appropriate to talk to someone in authority but I wondered more about why the mother thought it was okay to be treated that way by one of her children.

I thought to myself, “If a friend of mine were to talk to me that way, I wouldn’t go out of my way to spend very much time with her.  In fact, I would probably distance myself from that relationship almost entirely.”

If we won’t tolerate that type of treatment from a friend, why do parents put up with that treatment from their children? A mother’s love runs deep for her children.  We put up with a lot because we love as unconditionally as humanly possible each one of our children.

I thought back to all the times I’ve sassed my Heavenly Father – sometimes out of anger, sometimes because I was deeply hurt, sometimes because I’m stubborn and didn’t want to give up my own will for what was better – His way.  God never treated me the way I said I would react toward a sassy friend, distancing myself or eliminating the relationship altogether.  God doesn’t treat me the way I deserve.  Because of His perfect, unconditional love, He loves me enough to gently draw me back into a close relationship with Him. He loves me enough to keep patiently showing me His truth until I choose to obey Him. He loves me enough to not give up on me… even when I’m being a brat and don’t deserve it.

That got me thinking back to the original conversation I overheard between the teenage daughter and her mother.  I don’t know what’s going on in their family life to cause the disrespectful attitude of the teenager and loving response from the mother.  I’m not judging them… but I am grateful for the gentle reminder their conversation had on my relationship with my Father.

I want to eliminate the sass altogether and come to God grateful.  I will always struggle with fleshly desires and trials in this life; but my desire is to sass less often and for a lesser amount each time and lean in and trust God faster in each circumstance.  In the meantime, I’ll pray for that mother/daughter each time I think about them.  What is seen as a pattern from outsiders looking in could just be a bump in the road of a great relationship between two people who love each other.  Just like my momentary lapses with my Heavenly Father.  My sass comes through occasionally in between long periods of deep communication and fellowship.  Just as the mother doesn’t expect perfection from her daughter during this pivotal and constantly changing time in their lives, my Father doesn’t expect me to be perfect either. Thank goodness, He loves all of me, even when I’m sassy.

© Cheri Swalwell 2017

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“In my distress I called to the Lord; I cried to my God for help.” Psalm 18:6a (NIV)

 

I used to mow the lawn regularly and really enjoyed it.  It was some of the best times for me to let my mind wander and create stories in my head… stories which are still waiting to get put onto paper.  It’s relaxing to mow and I love the fresh air and sunshine that goes along with it.  For many reasons, I haven’t mowed regularly but this year, I’m starting to help again.

One Saturday it was hot and sunny but there was a great breeze.  I was mowing along and saw dirt mounds in the grass that I was breaking apart with the mower, sending dust clouds up behind me.  As I was turning the corner after disrupting several dust clouds, I noticed that the dust clouds were accentuating sunbeams shining through the trees that had been there all along, yet I hadn’t been able to see them until the dust particles made them “appear.”  Our family calls those sunbeams “Jesus Hugs.”

Our family has been experiencing some challenges lately.  On the one hand, I’m grateful that God has gotten our attention during this stage because if we had ignored the issues, they potentially may have reached a point of crisis.  However, anytime one goes through a challenge in life, it’s easy in the middle of the moment to blow the challenge out of proportion and feel hopeless.

Earlier that morning, there had been some breakthroughs regarding the challenges.  I was feeling hopeful about some things that had occurred and while the answer wasn’t revealed yet, I felt we were on the right track.  I believe God allowed me to see His “hugs” through the dust clouds on purpose that afternoon.  I believe it was a reminder that sometimes we need a few challenges here and there in life to remind us that God is always with us, always shining down on us, always in control of whatever we face.

Sometimes, when life is going well, and all we see is sunshine, God’s presence becomes invisible even when He’s there the whole time.  Sometimes, it takes dust clouds (challenges) in our lives to see clearly just how present He always is – watching, waiting, intervening, comforting, changing and most of all, taking care of us.

Just as I was grateful God had opened our eyes to some issues that needed to be handled before they reached crisis stage, I was grateful God opened my eyes to His huge hug through the trees that was invisible until showcased by the dust clouds of my making.

© Cheri Swalwell 2017

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“Teach me to do your will, for you are my God; may your good Spirit
lead me on level ground.” Psalm 143:10 (NIV)

 

Our family took an annual trip around mid-May this year.  This was the first time we needed a babysitter for our bearded dragon and we weren’t sure how she would do with a change in her routine and caregivers.  While she was pampered more than she is at home, when she came home she was “crabby.”  I chalked it up to her not getting held for four days because while our substitutes took great care of her survival, they drew the line at cuddling and that wasn’t part of the job description I outlined.

 

I continued to try and hold her occasionally each day, but she was just temperamental and not very fun. I was starting to get scared of her because she would repeatedly try to bite me which was unusual for her personality.  A few days later I realized what the underlying issue was – she was in the process of completing a full shed, meaning not just her head, limbs and tail were shedding but her whole body was shedding and this time was coming off in one big chunk.  If my body was undergoing that type of metamorphosis, I believe I would be even more crabby that she was.  Once her old skin was off and she was wearing skin that fit her bigger body, she was back to her happy go lucky self, jumping up on the window ledge asking to be held and let out of her cage.

I realized from that experience, at times I’m very similar to a bearded dragon undergoing a complete shed. When God is working with me on “shedding” some of my destructive habits or patterns in life, I’m “crabby” because I don’t want to give in or let go – I want to do it my way.  However, it’s not until I fully submit and surrender to doing it my Father’s way, getting rid of the old habits in one big chunk, that peace returns and I’m peaceful once again.

 

I’m going to take it one step further.  If I can recognize that pattern in myself, then don’t my friends and family deserve at least the same grace from me when they are working through shedding their bad habits that God is convicting them of?  It is during those times I need to come alongside them, pray consistently for them and not be so hands on with them, giving God and them time together to work through what our Father wants to reveal to them in their own lives.  If God wants my help, He’ll let me know. In the meantime, the best support I can be is prayer support and being available so that when they have completed their full shed and are feeling their normal happy go lucky selves, I’m waiting, ready to hear how God worked in their lives.

Jewel, our bearded dragon, continues to teach me lessons on a regular basis.  I’m glad that God allowed our family to see life through the eyes of a lizard… especially now that I’ve learned to read her signals and when she’s shedding, give her the space she’s asking for.

© Cheri Swalwell 2017

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“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.” Psalm 46:1 (NIV)

 

Twenty minutes.  Ten minutes.  A matter of a few seconds sometimes.  I believe as God’s children, there are many times throughout our life that God puts His hand of protection on us and we’re not even aware of how He prevents injuries, sickness and even death from entering our lives.  In fact, our family prays for His hand of protection daily… before getting out of bed Bill and I pray that prayer over our family (immediate and extended), we pray it as we begin driving around as we did that morning before heading to our friends’ house, and we thank Him multiple times for His hand of protection that has shielded us from accidents, injuries or sickness.

Usually I go about my day thankful that God is protecting me but not giving it much thought.  Then something like what occurred on that relaxing Sunday morning happens and God reminds me that even when I can’t see what He’s doing, He’s taking care of us.

If God is willing to protect us from a herd of deer smashing through our car window on a random January night or a man recklessly, purposefully speeding through an intersection on a Sunday morning in the summer, how much more is He willing to take care of us through other trials we might face in life – loss of finances, loss of employment, death of a child, sickness, strained family relationships?

You might be asking me, though – what about the people who were involved in the accident?  What about them?  Why didn’t He protect them?  I believe He did protect them. Three cars total were involved in the crash.  The car who purposefully sped through the intersection directly hitting a mother and five-year-old daughter, causing a chain reaction of her car careening into a third. I believe that while the third car itself was damaged, the people walked away relatively unharmed.  The mother of the car the speeding driver hit?  She suffered minor injuries and was resting at home comfortably 24-48 hours afterward.  The child?  Not a scratch on her.  My first thought was that God had sent an angel to cushion her impact.

Just four days’ prior, a co-worker emailed me to say her husband had been in a tragic car accident and while he was okay (injured but not fatally) their car was totaled.  Why, you may ask, were we prevented from being hit and these others weren’t?

I can’t answer that question.  I do know, though, that had we been involved in the accident, our prayer would have been for God to use it for His glory. I think, this particular time, He lifted the veil for me to see Him working behind the scenes as reassurance that He is working behind the scenes in our lives. We are facing some issues presently in our life and I believe God wanted to remind me He has each detail under control.  And for that reason, I’m so grateful He sometimes allows the veil to lift, giving peace that we can trust Him to work behind the scenes even when we can’t always see the results right away.

© Cheri Swalwell 2017

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“The righteous person may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all;” Psalm 34:19 (NIV)

Earlier this summer, a friend called to ask for help.  Bill willingly agreed to see what he could do, so after a good night’s sleep, he and I left our kids home and went to see what assistance we could give.  While I had a chance to catch up with a good friend, Bill went to work and 20 minutes later, we were heading back home and our friends were pleased with the results.

Taking the opportunity for a rare date, I offered to give my free Biggby birthday drink to Bill and we headed in that direction, traveling on roads we seldom use.  The next half hour was spent reconnecting, laughing and enjoying being together.  Soon after, we were back together as a family of five, enjoying the rest of our weekend and getting ready for the last week of school.

Bill came home from work the next day and showed me a video of a major accident that claimed the life of one while severely injuring several. It had occurred at an intersection we had passed through yesterday, 20 minutes after we were gone.  Twenty minutes.  If the job our friends had asked us to help with had taken 20 minutes longer, we would have potentially been involved.  If we had stood around chatting, we could have been in the hospital or morgue instead of spending the afternoon and evening with our kids. Twenty minutes.  That was a sobering thought for me.

Tuesday, Bill came home from work with even more information about what had happened.  It appears that the driver who ended up losing his life was purposefully speeding through the intersection.  Video was taken of him speeding through the first time, missing all cars and ten minutes later speeding through again when this time he connected with the innocent, causing the accident which led him to lose his life, severely injure his passenger and several others.  Not 20 minutes as I originally thought.  A mere 10 minutes between a calm relaxing drive that we experienced and an accident that quite possibly could have permanently changed our lives.

This near accident made me think about an incident I’ve written about previously in Spoken from the Heart: Embracing the Adventure.  I stated that I was informed I was losing my job on Monday, but God lifted the veil on Tuesday night to show me His protection when our family was almost involved in a multiple deer accident that would have severely injured or killed my husband and son while I watched from the passenger seat.

Come back next time and I will share what God reminded me of through both of these incidents.

© Cheri Swalwell 2017

 

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